"Here's what I find interesting, and mind you this is coming from someone who is in the midst of attempting to figure out which side of the gender spectrum I fall on. In my research on transgender/transsexual issues, our culture seems to place more emphasis on a female staying with their transgendered partner even if they were lesbian before, or straight before. Whereas if the trans person was previously in a relationship with a cisgendered man, whether the person is MTF or FTM, the cis-man is not anywhere near as obligated to stay with said spouse. FTM that were previously in heterosexual marriages or relationships with men seem to break off the relationship before transitioning. MTF's do this too with their wives/girlfriends but it seems as though it is more frequent for the female to stay with the person even though they are MTF. Also gay women seem to be more accepting of dating transmen, than transwomen, even though this seems rather counterintuitive if we're actually seeing people for the gender they wish to be seen."
Now guaranteed there was probably a better way of wording all of that, but I hope you get my drift, whoever reads this...
On the reverse of this, if everyone falls somewhere on a spectrum for sexuality and gender, and usually not on the binaries then maybe it is perfectly natural for some to be attracted to trans people even if they did not know they were trans before dating, even if the person was still pre-transition. Maybe if all of this gender stuff is just made up than we really just fall for the person. We obviously cannot help who we fall in love with, maybe those more towards the center on sexuality find that perfect balance in trans people.
Just a few observations, let me know what you all think.
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